Snap the Jealousy Cycle

Hey there..I think jealousy is a tough one...like so many other things. We grow up, we get hurt, we heal...or we think we heal - then the cycle repeats itself.

I can remember being jealous. Now, i'm not saying I can't ever experience those feelings. I'm saying it's been a long time since i've really been in a relationship with a woman where I had the opportunity for such a thing to even enter my consciousness.

I think there is a bigger picture that ties the J word and alot of other things into one big basket of darkness....all of this exists within - there is nothing external that our internal state does not dictate.

I can remember my previous girlfriend, let's call her sheena...:) She is such a wonderful person and I can remember her saying when we first started dating that she didn't like giving people the power. At that time I knew what she meant as I do now but now I find that statement hits my consciousness more.

Power has nothing to do with it. Anyone can put up a front. Anyone can be jealous or play it off, but sooner or later your buttons will be pushed as resentment builds and then pow. To get at the darkness you have to go inside yourself. You have to be vulnerable. You have to be willing to try to connect with people. The solution to not being jealous is not to think on how you can not be jealous or just keep your mouth shut. That will always backfire on you. Really, what we as a people have to do is realize that everyone has those feelings inside of them. It is up to us to realize where they are coming from - within. And tell your partner about it..hey, a mindful partner should love to hear that their lover is going inside themselves to look for the answers. People are never threathened by that or very rarely because you aren't pointing the finger at them. I find when you open up to people they really like helping. And, if they aren't willing to at least be present with you, are they really worth even having around?

One more thing i'd like to mention. Trying to get rid of something like jealousy by doing and thinking is NOT the answer. I suggest reading some Echart Tolle. Doing and thinking is the problem. The world would have us believe that we are what we think - wrong. When you are in love, do you analyze it and take it apart before making the decision to love. No, you just know it. Because you feel it. Imagine everything in life having that kind of clarity, that kind of beauty. Guess what - it does.

So what's the price, going inside and facing the things that keep us away from who we truly are. This is bravery. This is courage. And, people everywhere instinctively know this that's why it's only human nature to try to hide what makes us feel vulnerable - because it connects within us to that which we really need to work on.

Last thing - don't be hard on yourself. Everyone has these feelings and you are not alone in how you feel.

God bless and take care.

BR

The jealousy circle is very hard to break and i think that a lot of exercise is required to accomplish such a feet.

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